Can I say something? Breastfeeding can really suck sometimes. It took me until kid two to be able to admit it, but breastfeeding is not fun, it’s work… at least for me anyway. I did it with both, and I’ll do it again if I have more kids, but I am not one of those moms who was lucky enough to get attached to and love breastfeeding. No, for me it’s been work and sometimes anguish from day one.
Most of us had heard that breastfeeding is not the walk in the park we were anticipating pre-pregnancy and you might think (or hope) that with the second baby things would be different, that breastfeeding would be easier but that’s not always the case.
For me breastfeeding is something I do out of love and a commitment to do my best for my kids – and I say this in complete understanding that for many women breastfeeding just isn’t in the cards and you do your best for your kids too. Some women feel very attached to the idea of breastfeeding, I was just reading an article about a mom who admitted to just how much she loved breastfeeding and how much she will miss it. Some women do love it, and to those women, I salute you. Really. I’m even a little envious. I think that’s awesome that you had such a great experience, but I wanted to put this out there for any other women who see that sort of thing and think “what is wrong with me?”. The answer is, of course, nothing. For some moms breastfeeding is just plain hard work.
Nursing was hard for me because both my babies had latching issues from the get-go. It was hard when I got mastitis… three times. It was hard when even the thought of my baby latching made me want to cry. It got easier when I saw a lactation consultant. If you are in need of help in that department find a good one and go. A good one will change your experience for sure!
Even so, it was still hard.
With my first baby, Superman, pumping was difficult – difficult to find the time during work, difficult to transport it, and the mastitis… oh my ,oh my the mastitis!! It is enough to make any woman throw in the towel!
With my second, Rogue, breastfeeding for the first 7 months was all we did and even then it was a struggle because she got so easily distracted she would never stay latched for an entire feeding. So forget about trying to nurse in public… or even at home with her brother running around. It was also difficult because in the beginning nursing gave her tummy aches so I was constantly changing my diet to try and figure out what the heck was wrong. I never did, she just grew out of it.
I love that I was able to feed my babies, I am so grateful my milk came in, and the pain went away, and I that could do that for them, but… am I relieved I am done?…You betcha. Simply put, I’m glad I did it, but I won’t miss it.
If you are struggling like I was my best advice is to persevere, get help from an expert and realize that if it’s still not working, it might be time to try something else! Hang in there for as long as you and baby are both happy and don’t feel bad when you are ready to be done. It’s your choice, and your baby will get what they need whether it’s from you or formula. Stay strong mommas! While for some breastfeeding is a wonderful experience, for some of us it kinda sucks! You aren’t alone!